Eventually, Bateson was discharged from the Army, initially returning to Lansdale and managing to curb his alcohol intake. However, in 1964 he relocated to the bright lights of New York City. And there, he soon became romantically involved with a man from the music industry – sparking another decline into alcoholism.
With his new partner, Bateson lived a decadent lifestyle, regularly hosting parties and drinking at The Pierre, a high-end Manhattan hotel. Furthermore, the couple would also enjoy boozy weekends at Cherry Grove, a popular LGBT-friendly resort off the coast of Long Island. And during these get-togethers, Bateson would often cook for his partner and guests.
Then, however, in 1969 Bateson was hit by a double loss. That year, his mother suffered a stroke and passed away, a tragedy soon followed by the suicide of his younger brother. Nevertheless, the young man was able to focus on his career, finding employment as a neurological radiological technician.