Undoubtedly, a monogamous man’s greatest fear is finding out that his girlfriend has been unfaithful. Indeed, anyone unlucky enough to catch their ex in the act will tell you just how much it sucks and, more often than not, how they “never saw it coming.” But such indiscretions shouldn’t come as a surprise for those able to pick up on the signs. And while these signals aren’t definitive proof that your partner is cheating, they’re good hints to hunt out if you suspect your girlfriend’s mind is wandering.
20. She won’t put down her cell phone
We all know that girls love to spend time on their phones, but too much attention to her cellular device could mean that something’s amiss between the two of you. In addition to signalling contact with another man, her smartphone habits could show that she’s just not that interested in your relationship anymore and is looking elsewhere for companionship.
19. She points the blame at you
There’s no better argument technique than reverse psychology, and if your girlfriend accuses you of cheating, she could simply be transferring her own guilt on to you. Furthermore, if you have ever cheated on her, now is the time when she’s likely to bring that subject up. Although we can’t feel too sorry for you if that’s the case.
18. She’s too concerned with your calendar
While it’s always nice having someone who takes an interest in your day, your girlfriend’s overt concern with your schedule could be a bad sign. In fact – by finding out exactly when you’re not at home – it’s more than likely that she’s trying to avoid a run-in between you and her new lover.
17. You notice changes in her body language
Has your girlfriend stopped holding your hand in public? Does she find it hard to look you in the eye? Well, while these signs could mean she’s not happy in general, a drastic change in body language could also show that she’s lost interest in your relationship. And if she’s becoming very distant, then alarm bells should be ringing.
16. She’s suddenly more concerned with her appearance
Anyone settled in a lengthy relationship will at some point stop dolling themselves up and let personal appearance slide a little. However, if your girlfriend goes the other way and actually starts swapping her old sweater for a cocktail dress, or if she begins applying a little more make-up than usual, it could be a sign that she wants to look good for someone else.
15. Her closet is suddenly filled with lingerie
Likewise, her sudden interest in buying provocative lingerie may seem like an attempt to spice things up in the bedroom, but it’s equally likely that she’s trying to gain another’s attention. Just to be sure, it might be an idea to keep track of her Victoria’s Secret receipts and pay close attention to whether or not she wears her new underwear out of the house.
14. She hangs out with friends more often
If your girlfriend is spending time with another man then she’ll need an excuse to explain her mysterious absences. And when it comes to excuses, “hanging out with friends” is a popular one that can easily cover her tracks. But if she’s regularly stepping out of the house with a flawless appearance, then it’s unlikely that she’s meeting her gal pals all the time.
13. She won’t stop talking about her “new friend”
We all know the hardest part of falling in love is resisting the urge to talk about your new paramour every two seconds. Unfortunately, being in an existing relationship won’t stop this temptation, and – if your partner starts mentioning the new guy at work a lot – it’s very possible that the two are more than just friends.
12. She won’t let you near her electronic devices
Although privacy is important with electronic devices, your girlfriend is definitely hiding something if she’s acting very secretively around her phone or laptop. Specifically, take notice if she leaves her computer locked or has put a new password on her phone – there could be some clandestine conversations on there she doesn’t want you to find.
11. She’s quick to anger
Guilt can show itself in various ways, and one of its more subtle manifestations is through anger. And so, in the same way that she might accuse you of cheating, your girlfriend may point out your flaws or snap at every little thing you say simply to make herself feel better about her own misconduct.
10. Your schedule becomes noticeably emptier
If your girlfriend is the type who likes to plan outings in advance, then finding a blank space in your schedule may seem like a godsend. However, it could be cause for concern – especially if she’s stopped planning events altogether. In fact, in that situation it’s likely that the only thing she’s planning is a future without you in it.
9. She dodges the topic of commitment
Speaking of future plans, no topic is more likely to root out a potential cheater than marriage. Even if she doesn’t believe in matrimony, she may get elusive when the subject of long-term commitment comes up, and a partner who dodges these types of questions is surely up to no good.
8. She puts more time into her interests than you
Hobbies are a great thing to have, but if your girlfriend is putting more effort into writing, painting or the gym than spending time with you then there’s clearly other issues at hand. It might be that she feels unable to express herself in your relationship, or it might be that she wants to improve herself in the eyes of someone else. Either way, it probably spells trouble.
7. She no longer tells you about her day
It’s no secret that women love to talk, and your girlfriend likely relishes telling you every little detail about her life. As a result, keep in mind anytime that she becomes less chatty – or simply declines to describe her daily routine. It could be a sign that there’s something she doesn’t want you to know.
6. She dodges simple questions
It’s not just difficult questions that can make cheaters feel uncomfortable, either. Besides tricky commitment queries, a cheating partner can also be thrown off guard by simple questions relating to her day. And while it’s entirely possible that she may just not want to talk, it could also be a sign that she has something – or someone – else on her mind.
5. She distances herself from your family and friends
Self-conscious partners may have trouble adjusting to your family and friendship groups, but cheating partners will have more than one reason to feel uncomfortable. For instance, seeing your parents may exacerbate guilt, while your best friend may know something he shouldn’t. Either way, her withdrawal from this circle maybe shows her readiness to end the relationship.
4. She has an unhappy birthday
If your girlfriend looks glum on her birthday, it might not just be your present or the thought of getting older that’s bringing her down. In fact, studies have shown that the chances of a woman cheating actually triple around her birthday. And that’s probably because big anniversaries often call for reflection, forcing your partner to look back on their life and your relationship – which can lead to some unfortunate decisions.
3. You sleep further apart
While a lack of sex is an obvious sign that your relationship may be crumbling, there are actually other bed-based signs that show your partner is straying. For example, if your girlfriend moves further away from you before sleep, she could be distancing herself from you both physically and emotionally.
2. She blushes unexpectedly
Although love can last an age, the first highs of a new romance can be hard to replicate further into the relationship. Moreover, tell-tale signs like blushing and smiling are impossible to hide – and a dead giveaway that your girlfriend has found someone new. She may not be cheating yet, but it’s certainly on her mind.
1. She’s spending a lot of time in the office
Is your girlfriend staying late at the office? Is she canceling plans in order to work on her important presentation? Well, just like the “friendship” excuse, her “workplace” argument is another ruse designed to explain missing time. And while she could very well be working on that difficult assignment, don’t forget that the “office” in this case may be someone else’s bedroom.