This Trans Woman Was Rejected By Her Boyfriend – But Then She Transitioned And Everything Changed

Erin Anderson added a new friend on Facebook and sent him a message – she thought that he was attractive, after all. The guy didn’t have any interest in her at the time but everything would change two years later when she transitioned from male to female.

Anderson, who was deemed male and named “Aaron” at birth, told the Daily Mirror that she could remember when she began envisioning herself as a woman. “At three years old, I was an artistic child, I would always draw myself as a girl all the time,” she said.

But the Owensboro, Kentucky, native’s vision of being a girl didn’t just live in her art. Anderson also recalled that, “I would wear my grandma’s high heels, put mom’s makeup on and more. All of these are things that a little boy wouldn’t do.”

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Anderson’s identity made it difficult for her to fit in with her classmates. She said, “I was bullied by both the boys and the girls. The guys would ask why I would act like a girl and make fun of me. Then the girls would see me as a boy and not want to hang out with me.”

It wasn’t until Anderson turned 18 that she started to think more critically about her gender and whether or not she could live life as a woman, which was what she had wanted all along. “I was dumbfounded about how to change,” she admitted.

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Fortunately, Anderson had a friend whom she said “reminded me that life is too short and that I couldn’t keep living my life [being] so unhappy.” She eventually began hormone treatment and also had breast enhancement surgery.

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Several months into her hormone therapy, Anderson noticed that someone interesting had liked an Instagram picture that she had posted. His name was Jared Norris, and she had interacted with him online previously.

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Before the 22-year-old’s transition, she said she “knew of him and added him on Facebook because he was cute. While still living as a boy, I messaged Jared saying, ‘Hey, what’s up.’” But Anderson felt that Norris wasn’t interested, so she didn’t message him again.

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Surprisingly, though, the pair’s story wasn’t over. “It was two years later when he liked one of my pictures on Instagram. By that time, I had come out as a trans woman,” Anderson said. So, she took a fearless approach to her new admirer.

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“I decided I was going to be upfront, so I sent him a message with my number and within five minutes, I got a message from him and we started talking,” she said. The pair spent the next day – Anderson’s birthday – together.

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Within a week, they had made their relationship official on Facebook. That stood out to Anderson, who admitted that her former flames wouldn’t tell other people about their relationship because she was trans. “Jared didn’t fear that. He doesn’t care what other people think,” she said.

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For Norris, it was a simple decision to make. “I hung out with her a lot and really enjoyed it. We had a lot of things in common, even after talking for just a couple of days. I was thinking, ‘I could fall in love with this person,’” he said.

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Even with Norris’ open heart and mind, the couple did face a backlash when they announced that they were together. The computer science student said, “It wasn’t really well known that I was dating a trans woman at first but when everyone found out, it was a big shocker.”

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But that surprise digressed into something worse – threats started rolling in, too. Norris recalled, “[There was] one guy saying, ‘I will beat you up,’ which was depressing. It’s always the same rigmarole, things like ‘I hate you,’ ‘You’re disgusting,’ ‘You’re dating a dude.’”

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Rather than give in to the negativity, though, the couple made a conscious decision not to respond to anyone who contacted them online, whether their sentiments were positive or negative. Norris did say the messages of love that they had received had encouraged them, though.

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As of April 2018, the couple had spent two years together, thus proving that their plan to ignore the naysayers was working. And, according to Anderson, the way that their relationship started was a running joke between them.

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“We talk about our love story and us getting together often, actually. I admitted that two years prior [to meeting Jared] I wanted him and now I finally have him, which we laugh about a lot,” Anderson said.

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Still, there was one change that Anderson hoped to make in the near future. She admitted that she was happy physically, but she still dreamed of having gender confirmation surgery . “I think she looks feminine enough, but I understand that gender dysphoria is a big thing,” Norris said.

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Norris went on to say, “To me she already looks beautiful. I understand that it’s not about me but at present we couldn’t afford the surgery for Erin to become fully female.” For that reason, he made a promise to Anderson.

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Regardless of when she has the surgery in the future, Norris gave his word that his feelings wouldn’t change. “I will still love her exactly the same,” he said. And that lined up with what the pair had to say to anyone with any negativity left to throw at their union: “Love is love.”

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