Dress codes can sometimes be incredibly specific for certain events. That was definitely the case for a group of guests who were set to attend a wedding in Hawaii in 2019, as the bride-to-be made a number of bizarre demands. However, when her list was mocked on social media, she completely lost it.
Planning a wedding can be incredibly tough, as the organizers need to deal with several moving parts in the build up. While time constraints can also be an issue, some individuals get their requests in early, so guests can fully prepare themselves ahead of the big day. One bride in particular went down this route before her ceremony in 2019.
Indeed, the unnamed bride took to Facebook to make an announcement about her wedding in Hawaii. She addressed her guests in a lengthy post on the social media website, focusing on the dress code. However, the woman’s very specific demands left many scratching their heads.
“Hey everyone!” the bride wrote on Facebook. “Who’s ready for Hawaii 2019? In anticipation of the wedding, and believe me, I know it’s a long way away, but I would still like to announce the dress code! I am giving you a long notice of a year and a half so that you will have time to… pick out something nice.”
On that note, the bride then prefaced her requests with an explanation of sorts, outlining how the ceremony would go. “The dress code is very specific because it will be used to create an incredible visual effect,” she continued. “If done right, it will make our synchronized dancing along the beach really pop.”
While that latter point might’ve raised a few eyebrows, the bride’s requests didn’t appear too outlandish at that stage. However, that changed when she dived into the details of the dress code, which was structured around the weight of her guests.
Indeed, the bride split her guests up into five different categories, four of which were completely centered on weight. Meanwhile, the last category covered all the children that would be in attendance. And if that sounded bizarre, the dress code itself made things even stranger.
For the women weighing between 100 to 160 pounds, the bride listed off the following items that she expected them to wear. “[A] green velvet sweater, orange suede pants, Louboutin heels (the famous red heeled shoes, when we spin and lift our feet, the effect will amaze you) [and a] Burberry scarf,” the woman wrote.
Meanwhile, the male guests weighing between 100 to 200 pounds were given an even weirder set of demands. According to the bride, they needed to wear a “purple fuzzy jacket, [a] soda hat, all white trousers [and] plain glow sticks.” And the situation didn’t get much better for the remaining guests.
Indeed, for the women weighing over 160 pounds, the bride made the following requests. “All black sweater and pants,” she wrote on Facebook. “Any material. [And] black heels.” However, if the men weighing over 200 pounds thought their smaller counterparts were unfortunate, they themselves faced some bizarre demands as well.
The bride expected those individuals to dress in “all camouflage” and “black sneakers.” As for the children on the guestlist, the dress code specified that they wear “red from head to toe.” On that note, the woman explained her reasoning for the latter demand.
“Remember, the kids will form the shape of a heart,” the bride continued. “It needs to be true red, not blood orange or some bull****!” With the dress code laid out, she then revealed another request, which might have left some guests out of pocket.
“Additionally, we will require that you wear formal attire after the dancing has ended,” the bride wrote. “Please bring a change of clothing. Remember, the venue is extremely upscale, and we want to be looking our absolute best ladies and gents.” From there, she laid out an eye-watering figure.
“Please, if you look like trash, so will we,” the bride added. “All jokes aside, we want you to invest in an outfit valued at at least $1,000. This includes jewelry, accessories, makeup and hair. Remember ladies and gents, this wedding is 24k-themed for a reason. You have a year and a half to get working. No excuses!”
However, no one could’ve predicted what happened next, as one of the guests decided to share the bride’s jaw-dropping demands. Taking a screenshot of the Facebook message, they then moved over to Reddit, with the user posting the dress code on the “ChoosingBeggars” subreddit.
The guest, posting under the username insanepeopleonfb, titled their Reddit post, “Bride Demands Guests Wear $1k Attire.” Since sharing the list in December 2018, though, the dress code has gone viral, with online users expressing their shock at some of the bride’s outlandish requests.
The response on Reddit was stinging, as the list continued to grow in popularity. Indeed, the wedding guest’s post earned over 10,000 upvotes on the social media website, while also generating more than 1,000 comments. From outrage to bewilderment, the users couldn’t quite believe what they were reading.
“This color scheme is horrendous,” wrote Reddit user Ghonaherpasiphilaids. “How could anybody think this would look good? And the whole ‘this venue is classy so we need to look classy’ thing? Then why the f*** are you dressing people in camo? I don’t even know where you’d get [a] $1,000 camo outfit. I’m sure it’s possible, but why would you?”
Those feelings were reiterated by fellow user hawaiiangirl76, who was far from impressed with the bride’s demands. “As a native Hawaiian, I would like to mention that no one here… would want you,” they wrote. “I have unfortunately been to a similar wedding [here] where a bride requested certain colors.”
“It would be a rude thing and ridiculous to expect and ask this of your guests,” hawaiiangirl76 continued. “Please do not come to Hawaii. Please go to some other island paradise to spew your lack of aloha!” The criticism didn’t end there, though, as more Reddit users shared their thoughts.
“Is [the bride] planning a Bollywood production or a wedding?” user RealHausFrau wrote in the comments section. “Those colors and fabrics are ridiculous. I have so many questions about the dance she mentioned. Do all the guests have to memorize a special dance for pictures?! The whole thing is ridiculous and I’d be refusing that invite.”
Meanwhile, Reddit user MelTropolis focused on the different categories of the dress code. “So I’m a woman whose weight fluctuates constantly between 150 and 160,” she wrote. “If I for some reason went to this, no matter how much I weighed, I would dress in all black because hell no to that color scheme.”
However, MelTropolis’ rant didn’t end there. “Also you’d better bet my outfit would cost somewhere around $100 because that’s the most I pay for fancy clothes,” she added. “If they wanted to weigh me or ask for clothes receipts… well then I guess I’d get some karma on this sub for that story at least.”
As the internet continued to mock the dress code, the bride then discovered that her Facebook post had been leaked. Furious at the reaction to her demands, she felt the need to respond in another lengthy message on the social media website. Unfortunately for her guests, though, they weren’t spared from the ire.
“Hello invitees!” the bride wrote on Facebook. “[I have a very] important update. Please read. It has come to my attention that someone went all the way down in this group’s creation to screenshot the dress code requirements. The screenshot was taken wildly out of context, and has gone semi viral on Facebook and Reddit.”
After revealing that she’d seen the list on a couple of different occasions across Facebook, the bride then let rip. “I could not be more crushed, betrayed, or saddened,” she continued. “Knowing someone went behind my back and made fun of me is one of the worst feelings everywhere. And boy will you be paying.”
At that point, the bride laid out her plan in great detail, as the wedding guests were invited to a rather unusual party. “In honor of the snitch who sold me out, I will be hosting the first-ever Polygraph Party at my house, this Saturday at 8:00 p.m.,” the woman wrote.
“Bring your inner Sherlock Holmes, because we will be hunting out the snitch who put me on blast,” the bride continued. “You think I’m kidding? I’m not. We just bought a real polygraph test for $99 on Amazon.” And her plan didn’t end there.
Indeed, the angry bride insisted that everyone on the guestlist needed to attend this event, or they’d “be presumed guilty” for the embarrassing leak. After offering some reassurances to the innocent attendees, she then spoke about the punishment that awaited the culprit.
“I highly suggest whoever did this just tell me,” the bride wrote on Facebook. “I won’t retaliate, I will simply cut all ties and communication with you, and talk s*** about you for a long, long time. If you have any information about who violated my trust and my wedding planning, I will give you $100.”
At that point, the bride tried to explain the meaning behind the wedding’s dress code, claiming that the choices were all deeply personal. However, she remained tight-lipped about the four weight categories, instead focusing on the colors and outfits instead.
“The expensive clothing represents the riches we wish to come,” the bride continued. “The black and camouflage outfits represent the aura of the devil that we must shoo away. The soda hats represent our wishes for an abundance of life-saving liquid. You get the picture.”
On that note, the bride then revealed that she had met her groom-to-be at a “psychic’s desensitization chamber” in Italy over a decade ago. “Why not bring our traditions and beliefs into our wedding?” she asked. From there, the woman turned her attention to the online backlash that greeted her original Facebook post.
Indeed, the scorn that the bride poured upon the leaker was nothing compared to her tirade against those who mocked her. “I am outraged at the comments these internet trolls have made about the dress code,” she wrote. “Do you f****** know me? Do you know why we are doing things this way? No? Then shut up!”
The bride’s fury didn’t end there, though. “Go back down to your scum basement and play video games, and never f****** make comments about people you don’t know,” she continued. “My husband and I are certified spiritual healers with over ten years of experience.”
On that note, the angry bride posed her detractors a question, drawing parallels between her beliefs and that of other cultures. “Would you show up at an Indian person’s wedding and make fun of their culture and their tradition?” she asked. “If not, don’t judge ours. Anyway, I am so tired having to explain myself over and over. Please keep me updated.”
Much like before, the bride’s second Facebook post was shared across social media, with insanepeopleonfb returning to Reddit soon after. Just as they did previously, the user took a screenshot of the message and posted it on the “ChoosingBeggars” subreddit. Once again, the bride’s words sparked plenty of discussion among the online users.
Indeed, the follow-up post earned close to 7,000 upvotes on the social media website, while also generating over 1,000 comments. Some users felt the need to question the authenticity of the story, given the bride’s extreme outburst, but others weren’t so sure.
“This cannot be an authentic human being,” wrote user freetobebre. “If it is, I want to see some kind of interaction from the fiancé. He’s either just as crazy if not more, or getting very sick of her s***.” However, while that debate raged on, another user made a stark observation about the weight categories.
Although the bride didn’t directly address it, user Chailindra wrote, “I was amused until she explained that all overweight and fat people at her party need to wear black and camouflage in order to represent evil spirits. I hope each and everyone on her guestlist tells her exactly what they think of her!” Could we already have a contender for the strangest wedding of 2019?