Jonna and David Miller had not been married for long – but already David was returning home from work late. This left Jonna feeling lonely and insecure, stuck in the house alone with their baby girl. Were they not enough for David anymore? Was he more interested in work… or was it something else? Then one day Jonna took a closer look at his clothes while she was doing the family laundry. And what they revealed about her husband’s late nights changed her entire outlook on their lives together.
Jonna Miller and her husband David, both 20-somethings from Leesburg, Indiana, first started dating in October 2012. In November the following year, over Thanksgiving dinner, the couple got engaged. Jonna then gave birth to a daughter, Delanie, in February 2014, and the couple got married in May 2015. Yes, they crammed a lot into just two and a half years.
Jonna actually grew up in Smalltown, IN, where, by her own account, she spent most of her free time “telling bad jokes and creating awkward situations.” Her childhood, therefore, prepared her perfectly for a life of creating videos and blog content full of sarcasm and humor. Indeed, many may know Jonna better by her social media name, The Blunt Blonde. In her Twitter introduction, Jonna jests, “People think I’m always joking but I’m not. I’m genuinely an unpleasant person and hate everyone equally.”
Her husband’s childhood experiences, on the other hand, were very different to Jonna’s. You see, David grew up in the Amish community. This hardline Swiss-German religious sect favors plain living and eschews modern technology. However, his wife writes on her blog that David has become “well adjusted to his new ‘English’ lifestyle.” Despite this, Jonna found enough amusement in the Amish quirks David has retained to write a blogpost about them on The Blunt Blog. The piece was entitled, “You can take a Man out of the Amish but…”
These days, David works at a nearby RV dealership, while Jonna is a stay-at-home mom and blogger. The blog, then, is home to much of Jonna’s musings on her married life with David. For instance, Jonna has conceded that her husband works very hard and is often home later than he had planned. Jonna has admitted that this, sadly, leaves her feeling isolated and conflicted.
In December 2015, she told her blog readers all about it. She wrote, “I’m married to a hard-working man and I would be lying if I said that it didn’t take a toll on me. Sometimes he will come home after a long day at work and I’ll be waiting for him to walk in the door, so I can yell ‘you promised me you would be home at five!’ As if he would rather be working than spending time with me and our daughter.”
She added, “I’m putting him in a lose-lose situation. He literally can’t win. If he doesn’t work late, we won’t get the new furniture set that I have to have. If he does work later, he comes home to a nagging wife who is desperate for his attention.” She continued, “I am so selfish in our marriage and I know that. But, every once in a while, I’ll have my little ‘A-ha’ moment that gives me a sense of understanding.”
One such moment occurred for Jonna on a Wednesday evening when, once again, David was working late. She had put his dinner to keep in the fridge for his eventual return and was playing with Delanie on the floor. But while Jonna and Delanie looked at books and played with some dolls, Jonna’s mind was working overtime. She was thinking, of course, about how she would most likely erupt with an emotional explosion when her husband finally got home.
David still hadn’t returned by the time Jonna heard the clothes dryer finish its cycle. So Jonna opted to fold the warm clothes as a way of cooling down her emotions. But as she took the garments out of the dryer, she was still thinking of David’s absence. She explained in her blogpost that she began wondering, “Why does he not want to spend time with me? We’re newlyweds, aren’t we supposed to be in the honeymoon stage?”
Soon, however, she had formed two piles of folded laundry. She had put her clothes in one pile and his in another, ready to put away in their closets. But it was only then that Jonna noticed something about David’s pile. It was a simple observation that until that moment she had completely missed. Then it hit her.
What was this attitude-shifting revelation? Jonna told her readers her thinking. She asked, “Why did my clothes look so vibrant, clean and new? His were dingy, stained and torn.” It was only then that she realized the full extent of the sacrifice her husband was making for her. She explained, “This man provided more than I deserve. If I tell him I want something, very seldom will he tell me no.”
Jonna then added that this realization made her feel incredibly guilty. She was allowing her husband to treat her to nice outfits, while he made do with shabby and tired clothing. And to compound this, she was feeling aggrieved by his absence because he was out earning so that he could do just that. Jonna wrote, “I get spoiled with the fruits of his labor and he is okay with a pair of torn boxer briefs. I was acting as if he was out partying with his friends, but his laundry told a completely different story.”
This lead Jonna to reflect that it wasn’t just her husband’s clothes that had taken the brunt of all that hard-work. No, David himself was becoming mentally and physically torn and frayed by his job. His hands were now rough, blistered and cracked. Not only this, but he would often miss out on dinner or go to bed early because he was so fatigued from his long and arduous day of labor.
Nonetheless, Jonna disclosed the fact that David didn’t seem to mind all the late nights. She told her followers, “His heart is full when he walks in [through] the door and our daughter runs for him excitedly yelling, ‘Dada!’ His dreams have come true of being able to be a man and provide for his family. He has everything he has ever wanted in life.”
Thanks to this revelation, a thankful Jonna promised herself to strive to be a better wife. She would try to no longer get mad when her husband was late home from work. Instead, she would remember the sacrifices Davd was making both for her and their daughter. She wrote, “Sure, I miss him and want to spend time with him throughout the week, but I have realized he is offering me the most beautiful form of love there is… He works to give our family everything we need. He works so his wife and daughter don’t go without, even though there are times I’m sure he does.”
And Jonna had some advice for other wives and partners who found that they felt lonely while their other halves were out at work. Indeed, she concluded her blogpost with a suggestion for a fresh way of thinking about the problem. Jonna summed up, “If you have a hard-working man in your life and you can’t comprehend how much he loves you… Do his laundry.”
While not everyone reading Jonna’s blog could relate to this laundry story, there were plenty for whom it struck a real chord. One such reader left a comment below the article, claiming that it brought it all back home. She said, “This is an amazing reminder. I used to stay home with our daughters when they were little, and I used to feel horrible doing the same thing. This is an awesome perspective to carry.”
As for Jonna, she continued to compose blogs for her website, The Real Blunt Blonde. Many of the entries are – unsurprisingly – about aspects of her family life. Due to the interest lots of people seem to have with the Amish culture, many of Jonna’s pieces also discuss David’s background. One blogpost – “I’m not Amish but my Husband is” – talks about how she met David and was then introduced to his parents. It also pokes fun at some of the misconceptions she entertained about the Amish before she got to know him.
And Jonna naturally also covers motherhood. In early 2016, for instance, Jonna was struggling to cope with what is often referred to in childhood development as the “terrible twos.” This is when toddlers start to rebel against their parents, and Jonna responded to its challenges with comedy gold. An article entitled, “I Graduated at the University of Toddler Town and Majored in Defeat,” tells funny yet frustrating stories of everyday life with her daughter at that stage.
Now Delanie is hopefully well past the terrible twos, having almost reached the age of four. And although parenthood is still hard, it seems that Jonna and her daughter are sharing some truly beautiful moments. Indeed, in July 2017, Delanie traveled to Disneyland to meet Cinderella, an encounter filmed by her mother and later posted on Facebook. No doubt, David must have had to work a few late evenings to pay for his daughter’s treat – and he probably didn’t mind doing so one bit.