Ashton Kutcher is a famous actor who’s had some similarly well-publicized relationships. His marriage to fellow That ’70s Show star Mila Kunis has garnered its fair share of press attention, for one. Then, of course, there was his high-profile union with Demi Moore. But while Kutcher split from Moore in 2011 and has since moved on with his life, he finally decided to talk about the way he chose to deal with the divorce in a 2018 interview. And, as it turns out, the actor ended up doing some slightly strange – and somewhat dangerous – stuff in the aftermath of the break-up.
Way before Kutcher met Moore, however, he was a model. What’s more, his role as Michael Kelso on That ’70s Show was actually his first acting job. And Kutcher was originally convinced that he would end up getting fired from the series – if the program didn’t get canceled first, that is. In the end, though, the show became a big hit, and Kutcher became a star.
And Kutcher dated several beautiful young actresses after he hit the big time, including January Jones, Ashley Scott and Just Married co-star Brittany Murphy. His relationship with Murphy was the subject of rumors, however, especially after her death in 2009. In fact, controversial Lifetime movie The Brittany Murphy Story even suggested that the pair had actually been engaged at one point.
But Kutcher eventually fell into the arms of a woman 16 years his senior: Demi Moore. The two first met at a dinner hosted by friends and quickly hit it off. And by 2003 they were appearing on the red carpet together – most notably at the premiere for Moore’s movie Charlie’s Angels: Full Throttle. Kutcher also began to study Kabbalah, a Jewish spiritual practice, with his girlfriend.
And the couple’s relationship was serious; in a September 2005 interview with Harper’s Bazaar, Moore would even go so far as to describe Kutcher as her “soulmate.” The pair got married that same month in a private ceremony in Beverly Hills, which was attended by many of their close friends and family.
Then, for a while, Kutcher and Moore’s marriage appeared to be running smoothly. They appeared close when out in public, at least; they also wrote complimentary things about each other on social media. Kutcher even got along great with his wife’s ex-husband, action star Bruce Willis.
But in 2010, the year before the couple split, rumors spread that Kutcher had been unfaithful to Moore with at least three other women. And while the couple denied all the claims – Kutcher even called out one magazine that had described him as a “cheater” – they nevertheless spent their sixth wedding anniversary apart.
And then, suddenly, it was all over, as in November 2011 the pair announced in separate statements that they were splitting up. “It is with great sadness and a heavy heart that I have decided to end my six-year marriage to Ashton,” Moore stated to the Associated Press. “As a woman, a mother and a wife there are certain values and vows that I hold sacred, and it is in this spirit that I have chosen to move forward with my life.”
Kutcher, meanwhile, made his own statement on Twitter. There, he wrote, “I will forever cherish the time I spent with Demi. Marriage is one of the most difficult things in the world, and unfortunately sometimes they fail.” Kutcher subsequently filed for an official divorce in December 2012, citing “irreconcilable differences” as the reason. The paperwork was finalized the following year.
It wouldn’t be until 2018 that Kutcher revealed to the world how he had coped with the divorce, though. And the actor explained the slightly unusual things he did to deal with the situation while speaking to his buddy Dax Shepard on the podcast Armchair Expert.
It transpired that Kutcher had retreated to the mountains and essentially cut himself off from society for a bit. He revealed, “I took all my computers away, my phone, my everything. I was there by myself so there was no talking, and I just had a notepad and a pen and water and tea for a week.” That’s right – he’d cut himself off from normal eating and drinking habits, too.
Kutcher added on the podcast, “I did no food, no drink – just water and tea.” And apparently, this diet, combined with the solitude of the mountains, had an odd effect on him. The star went on, “I started to hallucinate on like day two, which was fantastic. It was pretty wonderful. I was doing tai chi with my own energy.”
That was despite the fact that Kutcher had never even done tai chi before. “I was just doing what came to me,” he added on Armchair Expert. “It was pretty wonderful.” The actor is a martial artist in another discipline, though; he’s been studying Brazilian jiu-jitsu for a good few years and earned a purple belt in 2014. And his teacher Rigan Machado told TMZ Sports in 2016 that Kutcher even “has a chance to be one of the top guys in jiu-jitsu.”
But Kutcher wasn’t only doing martial arts during his retreat; he also decided to try a different form of release. About this, he explained, “I wrote down every single relationship that I had where I felt like there was some grudge or some anything, and then I wrote letters to every single person and sent the letters on day seven.”
The star continued, “I typed [the letters] all out and sent them. It was almost like an AA exercise, where I was like, ‘I probably have done some damage.’ So I just cleared my palate.” All in all, Kutcher said, the seven days he spent in the mountains were “really spiritual and kind of awesome.”
And Kutcher has gone on to fast again. When preparing for the role of former Apple chief Steve Jobs in the 2013 biopic Jobs, for instance, he ate only fruit and nothing else. That extreme diet ended up putting him in the hospital a few days before production on the movie started.
When word got out about Kutcher’s unconventional dietary regime, though, Self magazine contacted Harvard Medical School’s Fatima Stanford to ask for her opinion. And it’s safe to say that she wasn’t a fan. “There is no benefit with doing something like this after a major life shift,” Dr. Stanford said. “When people fast, especially for lengthy periods of time, the brain has to pull from other sources to fuel itself.”
And that was the reason that Kutcher had begun to hallucinate and perform a martial art he wasn’t familiar with, Stanford explained. It wasn’t a healthy thing at all – it was his body beginning to dangerously feed off itself. So, although ultimately Kutcher had emerged from the experience seemingly unscathed, the consensus from Self and its contributing expert was clear: don’t try this at home.
However, Kutcher did say on the podcast that if he ever did something so extreme again, he would try and find a way to “get some nutrients” as well. Perhaps, though, he will never have a reason to fast once more. After all, Kutcher is a family man now, as he has two kids with Kunis.
The couple’s family grew by one with the arrival of daughter Wyatt in 2014; son Dimitri followed in 2016. What’s more, Kutcher’s been very vocal in the media about how much he loves his children and adores being a dad. And his relationship with Kunis, whom he knew for years before their romance started, appears to be a strong one. Hopefully, then, he’ll never feel the need to go on any more dangerous retreats…