Nick Carter is a former Backstreet Boy and reality TV star, but he’s also a family man. He’s married to fitness instructor Lauren Kitt, and they had their first child, Odin Reign Carter, in 2016. The pair hoped that they could soon expand their loving family. But unfortunately, in September 2018, Carter announced on Twitter that something had gone wrong. His fans were devastated for him and his wife.
Teen heartthrob Carter is still mostly known for his time in the Backstreet Boys. However he has had a successful solo career as well. The singer has had two reality shows, House of Carters and I (Heart) Nick Carter, and he has made a few appearances as an actor. In 2015 he was a contestant on Dancing with the Stars, where a special event took place: he and his wife learned the gender of their first baby on the show.
Carter comes from a big family. He has four siblings: Bobbie Jean, Leslie, Aaron, and Angel. Aaron and Leslie also went on to become musicians as well, however Leslie sadly passed away in January 2012. Furthermore Carter had a hard time growing up. Throughout his childhood, their fights with each other made his life difficult, he told Entertainment Tonight.
As little Odin prepared to turn one in 2017, Carter gave an interview to Entertainment Tonight about life with his young son. The pop star said he was “just really focusing on my family now and all the things that I can give and do better and get right with mine. Things that I didn’t necessarily have with my own.”
“He’s just a bundle of joy and it melts my heart and gives me purpose and reason to keep on staying healthy, staying motivated and all of those things,” Carter told the publication. “He’s a really good, solid thing for me to have in my life.” When asked if he and Kitt would have another child, Carter answered “maybe!”
But sadly the couple’s attempt at a second child didn’t work out. On September 10, 2018, Carter posted an upsetting tweet revealing that he and Kitt had just lost a baby. “God give us peace during this time. I really was looking forward to meeting her after 3 months,” he wrote on Twitter. “I’m heartbroken.”
“I can’t even imagine what your family is going through. I’m so sorry to hear this,” a Twitter user wrote. “I’m heartbroken for you and [Kitt]. She’s up there dancing to her daddy’s songs and [the] Backstreet Boys! Sending hugs to your entire family.” Carter’s response was equally sad, “It was a little sister for Odin…”
Many people responded to Carter’s post, with some of them sharing stories of their own miscarriages. There was a vast outpouring of sympathy. “I’m so sorry. It happened to me and my family before we had our first son. It’s so sad how often it happens and no one knows,” wrote another Twitter user. “Go home and hug [Kitt] and Odin tight.”
Carter publicly posted his indecision about whether to continue the solo tour he had been doing at the time. He had been scheduled to sing in Lima, Peru. “I don’t think I can perform tonight. I’m sorry Lima,” he tweeted at first. However an hour later he changed his mind. “This will be hard, but for the love of my fans here […] I’ll be on the stage tonight,” he wrote.
Two days after the announcement, Carter posted a follow-up tweet. “So I was wrong, it was 16 weeks along,” he wrote of the pregnancy, alongside a crying emoji. “We had the procedure yesterday. Please pray for us to have peace and healing during this time. Thank you for all your love and support through everything. We love you.”
Carter’s follow-up Twitter post also garnered lots of sympathetic comments. “I am so sorry you guys are experiencing this pain. You’re not alone and it wasn’t anyone’s fault,” one Twitter user responded. It’s a distressing fact that miscarriage can lead to serious mental health issues. People who experience such a tragedy can end up being diagnosed with PTSD or depression.
Men’s struggles coping with miscarriages can be made worse by the taboo surrounding the issue. Although things are starting to change, people still often avoid discussing the subject. Guilt, grief, and the feeling of not wanting to distress other pregnant women can lead to those who have suffered a miscarriage never wanting to speak about it.
And although they didn’t carry the baby, men too can suffer terribly from the after-effects of a miscarriage. Their mental health can be badly impacted as well, especially if they’re expected to remain stoic and move on as fast as they can. There is unfortunately not as much support available to men who’ve experienced the loss of a baby.
When Carter posted about his experience on Twitter, one person referred him to a post made by James Van Der Beek, expressing hope that the message would help. The actor and his wife had experienced three miscarriages, and he’d written about them just a few days before Carter had made his tragic announcement.
“First off – we need a new word for it,” read Van Der Beek’s post. “[The word] ‘miscarriage’, in an insidious way, suggests fault for the mother – as if she dropped something, or failed to ‘carry’… Let’s wipe all blame off the table before we even start.” He also wrote that losing an unborn child is “heartbreaking on levels deeper than you may have ever experienced.”
Carter and Van Der Beek aren’t the only celebrities who have spoken out about miscarriage. In her 2017 book We’re Going To Need More Wine, actress Gabrielle Union revealed she had “eight or nine miscarriages” while attempting to have a child with her husband Dwyane Wade. And in 2013, Beyoncé told Oprah that going through a miscarriage was the most difficult experience she’d ever had.
Carter’s wife Lauren Kitt has yet to speak out about her experience in her own words. However, sadly, the recent miscarriage wasn’t her first. In 2015 she lost a baby before giving birth to Odin. She spoke about it that year on Dancing with the Stars. “It was really hard on Nick,” she said on the show. “Just watching him get so excited about something, and then see him so hurt. That was hard.”
Carter described seeing Kitt pregnant as “unbelievable” when he was interviewed on Dancing with the Stars. “We’ve been trying to have a baby for about a year now,” he said. “It’s been rocky to be quite honest with you. There have been times when we thought it wouldn’t happen.” But Odin is now a happy and healthy child.
In the days after the announcement, Carter posted some pictures on Twitter of Odin and his day-to-day life. On September 19, 2018, he posted a picture of the little boy eating breakfast. “All that matters now is this moment,” Carter wrote, and tagged the post “#grateful.” A week later he posted a photo of Odin playing with his toys, this one tagged “#dadlife.”
Although they do have one much-loved child, it’s a terrible shame that the Carters have suffered not one but two miscarriages throughout their marriage. However hope is definitely out there if they want to try again. Risk is naturally present, but there’s still a good chance Odin will get a baby sister one day.