A Woman Left Her Family Following A Fight. Then Her Husband Told The World About Her Parenting

The path of true love rarely runs smoothly. Bring children into the equation and relationships can become incredibly crowded. But, they say not to judge someone until you’ve pent a day in their shoes. So, when this mom left her husband to look after their kids, he wrote a letter telling her about her parenting skills.

It’s exceptional in life for any two people agree to on everything. This rings true whether it’s siblings, best friends or even married couples. Most of the time it’s possible to brush any differences aside. But when those disputes are between two people who live together, the ill-feeling can quickly amplify.

One such misunderstanding occurred between a husband and wife. The story is told in a note that has been floating around the web for some time now. Nevertheless, it’s a lesson that’s worth repeating, especially for couples who are having difficulty finding common ground.

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To set the scene, then, the husband and wife had apparently been arguing for a while. Now, just because a couple fights, that doesn’t necessarily mean their relationship will eventually break down. Identifying and resolving issues can, in fact, serve to make relationships stronger.

Left unresolved, however, those disagreements can escalate. If not discussed and dealt with, and a level of understanding achieved, tensions can build and create increased ill-feeling within a partnership. That appears to be what happened between this husband and wife.

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The couple’s prolonged bickering probably started over silly little things, but eventually turned into a full blown fight one evening. As the husband laid out in his letter, he had been at work all day. When he got home at around 8p.m., he was beat. As he stated, “All I wanted to do was to lie down and watch the game.”

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It’s a fair request. After all, who doesn’t want to chill on the couch and watch TV after a testing day at work? But there was a problem. His wife was attempting to put their infant to bed, which was no easy task when the older kids were squabbling. It was apparently a commotion their dad didn’t want to hear.

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But, rather than lend a hand with the ruckus, dad allegedly kicked back and turned the volume up on the TV. But instead of drowning out the noise as he presumably hoped, it had an unexpected, and perhaps unintended, effect. You see, it wasn’t only the husband who’d had a tough day.

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His wife, too, had apparently had a difficult day dealing with the kids and, possibly, other wife/mom-type things. As her husband wrote in the letter, she said, “Would it kill you to play a more active role in your children’s upbringing?” as she turned the TV’s volume down again. “You can help out more around the house, too.”

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But instead of offering an apology and to help out with putting the kids to bed, the husband said something his wife probably hadn’t expected. According to the letter he said, “Hey! I work hard all day just so you could play in the doll’s house all day!” It was like lighting a fuse.

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The sniping escalated and the squabble turned into a full-on argument. Allegedly the husband said things that he later regretted. His wife was screaming that she’d had enough of everything. The end result of the fight was something no married couple intends when they take their vows.

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It is believed the wife broke down in tears and ran out of the family home, allegedly slamming the door behind her. There her husband was, all alone and left to take care of their children by himself. He had to make their dinner and get them ready for bed without the help of his wife. Then things got even worse.

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His wife was gone all night. And when she didn’t return the next day either, the dad had no choice but to go to his boss asking for leave to look after the kids. He learned a little about what his wife’s life is like by spending one day doing exactly what she does everyday.

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As the husband is believed to have written, “I experienced the crying and the tantrums. I experienced having to run around so much all day that I didn’t even have a chance to shower. I experienced being forced to heat the milk, get the kids dressed and clean the kitchen all at once.”

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But that wasn’t all. He realized that looking after kids means that not once throughout the day do you get to have a conversation with a grown-up. In fact, you’re lucky if you get to leave the house at all. He realized that it’s impossible to sit and chill, even when you need a break and something to eat. Because… Kids.

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The husband and father realized how physically exhausting and emotionally draining it is being their childrens’ primary care-giver. And that no matter how tired he was, meaningful sleep wasn’t possible because there was a baby that needed tending to. This man experienced an epiphany.

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So, after spending two days and two nights doing what his wife did 24-7, the man understood her a little better. He knew how tiring it was, and how she had little, if any, time for herself. He finally got that running around after kids is more exhausting than his job probably was.

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The man realized just how much of herself his wife had sacrificed for the sake of having a family. She’d given up her career and independence and no longer had time for friends or the occasional self-indulgence. He also acknowledged the mental and emotional strain of raising children.

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The penny, it seems, had finally dropped. Being a mom is no “doll’s house”. It’s hard work and a job that is often under-appreciated, not least by him. So he wrote his wife a letter, presumably in the hope that she would come home and know that she was loved for all that she is and everything she does.

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The husband concluded, “I get that being a mother means carrying society’s greatest burdens. Being the person that nobody appreciates, values or remembers. I write you this letter not just to tell you that you are missed, but, additionally, because I don’t want to go another day without telling you. You are strong, doing an excellent job and I admire you.”

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